OK! This is a complicated issue and I fully recognise that, but I find this kind of uncomfortable.
Yes! Romantic friendships. People have them and have had them and they're important. Although for you personally they are distinct from any lesbian identity the implication I'm getting here that there is and can be no overlap strikes me extremely oddly as does the claim of devaluation. (I come at this from a standpoint of having had relationships which have slid back and forth through various levels of lesbianism and friendship and stuff that could certainly be described as romantic friendship without stretching, and having not found any of them to diminish any of the others. So clearly my angle has to be very different from yours.)
I have really a lot of thoughts related to this, but 1) I think they're at a tangent to your point rather than in response to it and 2) I have to go to class now. So maybe I should leave it. Or come back later, depending.
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Yes! Romantic friendships. People have them and have had them and they're important. Although for you personally they are distinct from any lesbian identity the implication I'm getting here that there is and can be no overlap strikes me extremely oddly as does the claim of devaluation. (I come at this from a standpoint of having had relationships which have slid back and forth through various levels of lesbianism and friendship and stuff that could certainly be described as romantic friendship without stretching, and having not found any of them to diminish any of the others. So clearly my angle has to be very different from yours.)
I have really a lot of thoughts related to this, but 1) I think they're at a tangent to your point rather than in response to it and 2) I have to go to class now. So maybe I should leave it. Or come back later, depending.